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JustKhairie

My blog on self-development and emotional health

Month / March 2014

SO YOU JUST GOT DUMPED (PART 4: RELAPSE)

*I wanted to write a part 2 and 3 before this, as I feel the parts should come in chronological order, but I felt the urge to write part 4 tonight. It’s being posted out of order, so bear with me.

So it’s been several months, and the worst is over. After hearing from countless friends that you’ll be fine, for the first time, you actually start to feel it, unbelievable as it sounds. You wake up not thinking about her. You’re excited with new hobbies. You meet new people. You haven’t seen her in weeks, and you don’t miss her as much. You think – finally, it’s happening. I’m getting over her.

And then one day some random thing sets you off – a Facebook photo, a text from her, you see her getting cosy with a new guy – and you crash. Bad.

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SETTING THE VALUE YOU OFFER TO OTHER PEOPLE.

I had a dysfunctional relationship with my late mother. Being the only child, she had an unreasonably high expectation of me. At 10 years old, she forced me to read an encyclopaedia of outer space. These weren’t children’s books either – they were meant for high school/ college students.

Naturally, it was confusing as hell. It didn’t help that she would quiz me after each chapter, and when I couldn’t answer, she’d put me down and yell at me.

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WHY WE NEED TO STOP THE ‘FRIENDZONE’ CONCEPT

Chances are, you already know what the ‘Friendzone’ is because it’s been made popular by sites like 9gag and TV shows, but if you don’t, here’s a simple  breakdown:

If you’re a guy with a bad history with women, you’re familiar with the concept. You remember buying her the perfect birthday present (the one you spent a week thinking of/saving up for), only to have her spend the night with her boyfriend. Or you remember spending an hour or more driving her from her home to the mall, even though it wasn’t convenient for you at the time, but she desperately needed to get there and her car was broken.

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