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DON’T WAIT.

I’ve been consoling this friend of mine who recently went through a “break up”. I added the inverted commas, because by definition, you’d have to be in a relationship before you can break up with someone, and this couple never made it there – they’d been doing couple-y things for a year, but neither has ever broached the subject of what exactly they are (were).

So, of course she was upset. For context, this was supposed to be her first real relationship, and I’m sure she had high hopes for it when it first started – but as months passed, we were noticing that he just wasn’t doing the things that boyfriends typically do, like showing up for birthday surprise parties, doing something special on valentine’s day, and other things you’d typically see a boyfriend doing in a blossoming relationship.

So we asked her what’s up.

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Religion 2.0

“Sure, I’m an atheist, but I don’t think we’re different at all,” she said. “In fact, I think religion and atheism are rooted from the same feeling.”

What? I ask, incredulously. No they’re not. They’re completely different things. Like, I believe in a higher power, in a grand design, but you… don’t. We’re earth and sky.

She laughs. “Okay look, I’ll prove it to you. Think about all religion. Every religion that you’ve ever known. Are you thinking about them right now?”

Uh-huh.

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Chapter 1

10th August, 21:00 (I think).

My best guess would be that I was abducted on the evening of 9th August 2016, sometime around 9pm. I have no way of being sure.

I was in the changing room of my regular gym, having just finished my workout. As I took off my shoes, a sudden, sharp sting pierced my lower back. I cursed out in pain, thinking some insect had stung me. Turning round to inspect it, I saw a suited masked man instead, holding what looked like a gun in his hands.

It was the last thing I saw before passing out.

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ADDICTION

It creeps up on you unexpectedly.

You’re at home, in front of your computer, on some idle Friday night in. You browse Facebook, scroll Instagram, read about Pokemon go. Tired, you sit back and take a breather. A moment of retrospection creeps in.

Hey, it’s been a while since I had my fix.

That’s great, you think. XX days, not bad at all.

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THERE ARE NO BAD REASONS FOR A BREAK UP.

A good friend of mine just broke up recently, and when she announced it, I naturally asked “What happened?”

I could almost see her mind racing through the answers. “Well, it was the distance, and he’s been really stressed out at work, and he says he can’t really be there for me as a boyfriend should, and…”

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STOP DOING THINGS THAT MAKE YOU HATE YOURSELF

One of the things that went viral a couple of weeks ago was this clip of Lebanese TV host Rima Karaki cutting off this Islamist guest who was rude to her on her show. If you didn’t watch the clip, he basically rambles on in his answer during a live interview, going into needless historical accounts and rhetoric. He starts losing his shit when Karaki tells him they have limited time and that he needs to stick to the present, at which point he tells her to shut up. He comments that he’ll do whatever he wants, and says “this interview is beneath me,” at which point Karaki says to him,

“Just one second. Either there is mutual respect, or the conversation is over.”

…before promptly cutting him off.

Karaki is interviewed after the show where she explained why she rebuked him (as if that really needed an explanation) and she said this –

“Had I not answered, I would have hated myself, and I don’t want to hate myself.”

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ZOMBI (CHAPTER 1)

Pak Din hobbled through the empty street in the darkness, his path lit only by the pale glow of the half-moon. In his arms was a little girl, barely ten, dressed in a pink baju kurung, its left sleeve torn away. Her head and limbs hung limp over his shoulder, a bleeding wound agape on her left arm.

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THE FOUR QUALITIES EVERY WELL-ADJUSTED ADULT SHOULD HAVE

Last weekend I’ve had some time to myself from a self-imposed, ‘don’t-go-out-and-spend-unnecessarily-you-dumbass’ house arrest, and I spent it reflecting on how 29-year-old me compared to 22-year-old me. There were plenty of things I felt was different, but these four were probably the biggest lessons I’ve learned as an adult.

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A LETTER TO THAT GUY WHO WON’T LEAVE YOU ALONE (WRITTEN BY ANOTHER GUY)

Dear <insert your name here>,

If someone’s shared this post with you and hasn’t specifically stated otherwise, then assume that the following has happened:

1) At some point of your relationship with her you’ve indicated that you’re interested in her.

2) She doesn’t feel the same way about you, and she’s tried to show this through her actions and responses.

3) You don’t get it, and insist on remaining in her life.

Seriously, if you’re here, it means that she’s tried everything to let you down gently. Brace yourself – it’s time for some tough love.

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ASK HER OUT FOR YOU, NOT FOR HER.

A couple of months ago, I was out with a good friend and fellow blogger of mine, Crystal, when I told her that I’d been asking random women out dates. The conversation went somewhat like this:

Her: You mean, you’ve been asking random girls you see on the street out?

Me: Yeah! Why?

Her: Don’t you think it’s weird? Like if someone I didn’t know just came out to me and did that, I think I’d freak out.

Me: I don’t think it’s weird. Provided of course, you’re able to handle it if she rejects you.

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